We all have memories. Some good, some bad.
We all have had experiences. Some good, some bad.
We all have coping methods. Some better than others.
Look at something you’ve been thinking about. Is it from the past, is it in the future, or is it something now in the present? What are your thoughts about it? Are the thoughts positive or negative? Do you wish your thoughts were different about this? Why? What do you wish to be different?
Did you know that the power of thought is a great thing!? If you can think it, that is the first step towards change! 🙂 Your behaviour and attitude comes from your thoughts! If you only think positive thoughts and think before you speak, think before you act and only think positive, then gradually your thoughts and actions will change! 🙂
For example, going back to decluttering…
if you look at the space which is untidy for long enough, you don’t notice it any more! The pile of books, the stack of papers, the oddments, the pens, the coins that are all there, belong there. That is their home. You know where they are. They are tidy – in their own right. But, do they really belong there? Imagine that space being completely empty. Imagine not having to dust around everything. Imagine a lovely fresh vase of flowers there. The more you imagine it, the more your brain will wonder if you could actually change it! So you look at the papers and realise some are out of date, some are just junk anyway, others need sorting and filing and quickly they have been recycled and moved. You have a bit more space. You have a bit more tidy. That space could be for a nice romantic candle – giving off a relaxing scent and calming your mind. You put the coins in your purse, the pens in a pot, the oddments return to their proper homes and the books go back to the library or a shelf. You did it! That space is now free – just from the power of your positive thoughts. ?
Have a look at the section in this blog post about worrying. We all worry about things. Maybe you are worry free at the minute, but something has been worrying you before? Was it worth the worry? Did it actually need worrying about, or did it all work out well in the end? Never mind the fact that it could have gone wrong! More than likely it went well and the worry could have been avoided. Once again – positive thinking. Think of all the things which could go well with your worry. Get your brain to only think positive thoughts. Think of the outcome you would really like and let that thought take over your worry. ?
Maybe you have a phobia about something? Phobias mean different things to different people and usually stem from past experiences. Have you ever seen someone overcome their phobias? Did you think that there is no way possible that their phobia could have been as great as yours!? You know what… it was probably worse! You have to want to overcome it. You have to think about overcoming it. Whether it be a fear of spiders, a phobia of flying, a fear of blushing, a phobia of small spaces, a fear of heights, a phobia of tunnels, a fear of social situations or any other phobia, they can be lessened with positive thinking, rational thoughts, someone else’s perspective and step-by-step goals.
I’m not saying it is easy. I’m not dismissing your thoughts. I’m not saying change will happen overnight. I’m just asking you to always think of the positives that ‘could be’ in any given situation. I’m just asking you to let your brain see the positives.
Think on these words and see if there is something which you can act on now.
As always, your comments are always welcome and I will reply personally to each one. If you prefer to keep your thoughts private from the world but would like to say, share or ask something, feel free to email me at laurena@lifediethealth.com
Sending positive thoughts, vibes and energy your way! ?
Hear from you soon
Laurena x
If you have a spare five or six minutes to learn a relaxation technique, here’s one to get you started:
Hi Laurena, it’s so true about your behaviour and attitude coming from your thoughts: this reminds me of “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” (thanks Wayne Dyer?). I’m very prone to thinking negatively, whether that be due to worry, anxiety or the more toxic end of the spectrum like resentment, anger and bitterness, even at the smallest of things- trying to work on this, though. Aromatherapy shouldn’t be underestimated, it does help to relax and centre me…. as well as not having so many ‘oddments’ around- I got used to not having much stuff when most of our stuff was in storage lol.
Oh Eva… think of something positive and repeat it to yourself all the time! Write it out – stick it in your purse, on the wall, next to your hairbrush, anywhere where you can see it constantly! Worries and anxieties can be looked at with a “What would you do if…?” question e.g. ”what would you do if you knew you could bake a perfect loaf better than the bakery down the road?!’ The answer then becomes easy and your mind sees the positive and not only gives you confidence, but encourages you to let the worry or anxiety go! Resentment, anger and bitterness usually come from things in the past, which are just that – the past. Decluttering is good for removing reminders of our past (although I’m guessing you don’t have too many things with you in your new home, but maybe still in storage?) with a sense of relief when you recycle or rehome them! Also, a pre-thought -out statement to quash any bad memories works wonders. So… get thinking, get writing (they need to be written down as we recall them better that way) and think positive! 😀
Thanks for your pearls of wisdom, we’re lucky to have you as our guru? It’s true, I do live in the past and I’m very nostalgic- I can’t really help it lol (or can I??). I do like the cathartic feeling when decluttering (autocorrect just changed that to fluttering lol) but there’s also a sense of guilt that I’m letting go of something from my past that I shouldn’t if you know what I mean? I remember reading about a guy who was distraught his mum threw away a ‘special ‘ Coke can he’d kept in his bedroom for years- I’m not that bad, although I may have been in the past haha. Right, I need to get thinking on my pre-thoughts…☺
Ooo, I like ‘fluttering’! and I totally get the holding on to things… but if you take a photo of them and save it somewhere safe, maybe write a memory or two about it, then it should be easier to let it go! You know I’ve collected a selection of Dad’s things – I have made a memory book (I didn’t need to keep his old jar of lemon tea or Screwfix book) with my memories of him in… but I do still have a shirt or two of his, and a few things which are useful such as a penknife, a hammer, a drill! Ooo, now have I ever been called a guru before!? Thank you! That comment has made me think even more about setting up my life-coaching practice… ! 😀 x
You should definitely look into life-coaching? Good idea about taking photos… do you still get yours developed? That sounds so old-fashioned now! I remember I was always in Boots and Super Snaps using their self-service photo machines around ten years ago- seems like a lifetime ago now (pre ipad/smartphone era). What a lovely idea keeping a memory book of your Dad☺ Thanks again for the advice and suggestions. By the way, did you get frosty weather? It was a scorching 22′ over here on Sunday but will be 7′ tomorrow, crazy weather at the mo?x
? I am already a qualified life coach… but other things took priority over me setting up! I was going to combine it with a nutritional therapy practice (which I’m also qualified in) so I could specialise in diet and health, although I’m pretty good at giving business advice too! Aghhh Eva! Now you’ve got me thinking!!! I do sometimes print the odd photo – usually by post though and more often than not in a book of some sort- from A4 to just bigger than matchbox size! We have a frost due tonight but we had 17c on Monday! Oh… my first (2nd & 3rd?) phones didn’t take photos lol!!!
Again, is there any end to your talents hehe. Nutritional therapy sounds interesting; unfortunately I’ve never had a head for business?. The first photo phone I got was only five years ago and that was a really cheap one, I’m such a dinosaur lol (I remember they were all the rage back in 2003/04 so I was very late to the party!) I used to go to Boots with my CD Roms? My parents used to send rolls of film in the post in the 80s haha. Wrap up warm, I hope the frost doesn’t do much damage to your allotment x
err… Truprint envelopes! lol! I used to do that too (or Bonusprint)! Although at some point I had a disc camera too which less places would develop! I had my first phone in the very early 1990’s (possibly earlier)! I recall being stared at as I rode my bike to the stables whilst chatting on the phone lol! You don’t think I’m going out in the cold do you! The allotment will have to wait – I haven’t put much in (and what I have is hiding)!
Haha! Honestly can’t remember which company but those you mentioned sound vaguely familiar…maybe it was Kodak. Wow, what a trendsetter you were having a mobile in the early 90s- I think the first ones I saw were around 96/97! Who’d have thought just how much they would develop, and to think in 2000 the smaller and lighter they were, the more ‘premium’ they were- it’s totally the opposite now. Did you have a flip cover Motorola??
Well, err… I did some work for a mobile phone company lol! I think Dad’s (mega expensive) car phone was a Motorola… car phone as in it was fixed to the car and had a spiral cable like an old house phone! Oh gosh I’m sounding so old! 😛 Yes, I recall a Japanese friend having a minute phone (minute as in tiny!) as in about half the size of a credit card! Oh, and I had a flip cover Samsung! Right… enough reminiscing for now! 😛 x